She was your confidante during your private heartbreak and confusion, your trustworthy sidekick, your perceptive sounding board, and your lifelong best friend.
Then she suddenly lost her temper with you in an unjust and unreasonable way.
She betrayed you in order to get a man.
She took advantage of you in order to further her own goals.
Her actions were unexpected, and they seriously hurt you.
She didn’t say sorry. Rather, she pretended like your relationship was unaffected and that nothing had ever happened.
You attempted to explain to her how she had harmed you, but she either downplayed it or deceitfully placed the responsibility on you.
It’s time to bid your conceited best friend farewell, girl.
These are seven subtle indicators that your best friend is extremely toxic.
1. They hog the conversation
Your conversations revolve around her. You feel like she never listens to you.
When you try to share your thoughts, your feelings, or your point of view, she shifts the conversation to her opinions, accomplishments, and concerns, shutting down a give-and-take conversation.
That is not a sign of a good friend, that is toxicity. A good friend will listen to you fully, make sure you are done before she talks about herself.
2. Everything is one-sided
You do all the calling, inviting, and driving. You acknowledge her birthday but she overlooks you.
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You seem to always pick up her tab. She’s the first girlfriend you call to go to an exclusive party or event.
You invite her everywhere but you discover that she excluded you from a get-together with mutual friends.
This is another example of a toxic friend, a friendship shouldn’t be one-sided, both of you need to be connected and reciprocate energy.
If your friend is not giving back a positive vibe when this might be the time to quit.
3. They lie
She exaggerates the truth to create false self-esteem.
She manipulates circumstances to her advantage. She creates smoke screens to mask her hurtful behavior.
Oops! She forgot to tell you she had drinks with your new romantic interest.
If someone starts talking about a situation and never mentions their own contributions to it, then that is a great sign of a lie.
Genuine and true individuals have no reasons to lie, it is always these toxic people.
4. They make demeaning comments
She pokes fun at you in front of friends. Her remarks sting — but you tell yourself you’re overacting. She acts like she only kidding when the truth is that her comments are verbal abuse disguised as jokes.
5. They use you
She’s your friend because you have access to people in high places, exclusive parties and events, and business connections.
She invites you to her parties and events because her real BFF can’t go.
If your friendship with someone is based on the advantages you give or the gaps you fill then that is not a sign of a good friendship.
Friendship should be based on what you can offer or the spaces you can fill.
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Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you friend shouldn’t benefit from the access you have to people in high places, or business connections.
But that shouldn’t be her main goal of being friends with you.
6. They blame
She doesn’t take responsibility for her outbursts, manipulation, or disrespect.
When you confront her for her hurtful behavior, she tries to make you feel like the bad guy.
People Who are toxic naturally don’t take responsibility, so if your friend behaves this way, that is a great sign of a toxic friend.
Don’t overlook it, because that can end up hurting you so bad in future.
7. They’re controlling
She needs to control every situation — where you go, what you talk about, and the friends you invite to join you.
She wants you to take your car to a bar or party because she doesn’t want to drive drunk.
If you don’t agree, she will simply opt out.
Damn! This is a very big one, friends who act like this are very dangerous.
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